TINA AND TONY UPDATES

[Zbonnie]

Tony, it was making me sad all over again everytime I saw the original thread title telling us the news about Tina. I do believe in the power of positive thinking and thought I would start a new positive and hopeful thread for you to post updates on Tina's improving condition, mmmkay?

[Lester_leaps_in]

Great idea, ZBonnie!

[VWGal]

Bon, I like how you think! Sendin' Tuesday morning karma to Tony and Tina....

((((((((Tony and Tina)))))))))))))))

[NYMAMA]

This is much better. Thanks Bon

[Zbonnie]

Bumping it up above the original thread again.

[Zbonnie]

One mo' time on da bump cause I saw Tony was still looking for and posting in the old thread, so I hadda tell him we got a nice, new thread for him to post updates in.

[RevDon]

Tony, it was making me sad all over again everytime I saw the original thread title telling us the news about Tina. I do believe in the power of positive thinking and thought I would start a new positive and hopeful thread for you to post updates on Tina's improving condition, mmmkay?

Ya beat me to it Zbonnie! Out with the negative, in with the positive, like yoga breathing:D

[withbellson]

Thanks Bon Ton ;)

I had also thought about changing the title of the existing thread, but I guess it cannot be done, so this is the next best thingy. EVERYONE PLEASE post to this new thread and look here for updates!!! let the bad news thread waste into oblivion....

Many thanks for your prayers and thoughts!
Tony

[mightyradgumbo]

YYR, Bonnie....the power of more positive vibes from Beantown to Tony and Tina

[glinda]

Nuthin but positivity. Warm & fuzzy threadhead vibes from Chicago.

[TheGuzilla]

more New York City positivity coming your way. thoughts & prayers for Tony & Tina!

[Goose]

Sending more thoughts and prayers from San Francisco... :)

[t.o..fester]

Let's start those Canadian vibes on this new thread. <<<<vibes>>>

[neverleft]

Positive vibes coming from the other LA, Los Angeles

[NYMAMA]

Sending love and good healing vibes ~~~~~~~~~~~~~

[ChiTownHuck]

Still sending prayers for Tina's continued recovery and strength for you and the family.

[Frosty]

And more from the north 'burbs of Chicago......

[steffie]

lots of positive vibes from the Wild West :)

[bluedog]

praying for full & speedy recovery and sending good kharma from Land O Lakes FL

[tangledupinblue]

Prayed for Tina on my hour long train ride to work this morning.

LOVE TO YOU!!!

[kerryblues]

And that healin feelin vibe still being sent to you from the UK
x

[Profester No Hair]

Delaware may be small but there is BIG love and many thoughts and prayers coming your way.

[RevDon]

We just got a message from Tony that was VERY up-beat. Tina's doing much better. She opened her eyes and is trying to talk. Her vital signs and heartbeat are much improved too. She still has a long way to go, but she's on her way back. Thanks to you all for your love and support.
Thread Head Power ROCKS!!!:D

[Zbonnie]

Great news, thanks. Keep the prayers coming people!

[brooklyngal]

That's really great news! Lots of good positive thoughts from Brooklyn.

[TheGuzilla]

that is good news indeed. big smile, and more thoughts & prayers...

love, love, love, love, love...

[VWGal]

Oh this is fantastic! Doubling up on vibes from Canada.....c'mon TINA!

[Amy Winette]

Wow, that sounds amazing! Can't wait to hear more :)

[bluedog]

We just got a message from Tony that was VERY up-beat. Tina's doing much better. She opened her eyes and is trying to talk. Her vital signs and heartbeat are much improved too. She still has a long way to go, but she's on her way back. Thanks to you all for your love and support.
Thread Head Power ROCKS!!!:D

Oh that just gave me chills & tears! Such great news!!!!

[NYMAMA]

Great News!

Sending more love and healing vibes~~~~~~~~~~~~

[dumbtourist]

Rev...thanks for posting this info. Looking forward to seeing (or at least hearing about it) them married by you one day!

[RevDon]

Rev...thanks for posting this info. Looking forward to seeing (or at least hearing about it) them married by you one day!

When they're ready, I'll be doing it pro bono, and I'll let everyone know the details as they occur.

[grisgris]

Karma still comming from NELA for Tina & Tony. Be strong Tony.

[funkkjunkie]

I wish Tina and Tony the best life has to offer. Sending healing karma for her full recovery. Personally, I don't think it fits to continue to bump this thread or any other of this sort on the main jazzfest forum. But I didn't think it fit to bump a thread about a wedding when it wasn't kermit's or to bump a thread about politics. I like my jazzfest bored to center on the city and the music. Even though it doesn't fit there either, moving it to general music discussion might be good or perhaps an email campaign is the answer. It's just not the kind of info newbies who find us at this last minute want to read. Yes, it's life and it has happened to one of our newer members but it will harsh a lot of mellows. And on that same note, IMAO dedicating a thread to who sent $ really doesn't need to happen. You've listed the address. Let those who feel moved to donate do so. I know lots of you will strongly disagree with this unsolicited opinion but what can I say. I'm a sagitarrius. I tend to say what I feel. ANd I love my THs and my Jazzfest!

[ibjamn]

Well said, vic, I agree with you.

[ohio]

Thanks for being so candid, Vic. I agree too, this just isn't the proper forum. We all care very much, but this is the Fest board....

[pokerchick66]

I don't disagree with you, KK. I respect your opinion and I thank you for being honest and I love you for it.

[Corona]

me too sweetie...I'm with ya....I do hope for the best for TnT and that karma does what it's supposed to! :)

[RevDon]

As you might notice, I did not ask anyone to do anything, I merely stated what I did, and posted Tony's address. You might also notice that there was quite a thread devoted to asking people for their money for a charity. All well and good. Anyone who has lived through what we, the people of New Orleans did, understand the true meaning of charity, and continue to appreciate all that comes our way. TnT's was a personal tragedy that happened right in front of all of us. I felt compelled to do what I thought was right, and if I rankled some of you, so be it. I can live with that, and I'll still do what I can to help out the couple that so many of us fell in love with due to their love for each other. If you have a problem with that, drop off the thread and go to the bar and let the good times roll. Otherwise, I see nothing wrong with those of us big-hearted enough to want to do something being allowed to do just that. Tony and Tina have enough negativity to deal with, without yours.
But then, that's just the way I am.

[glinda]

So very glad to hear the good new about Tina! My prayers and good thoughts are still with ya, TnT.

Rev, Thanks for posting Tony's address. I will so miss the chance to witness their wedding at fest this year. I'm sure that Tony, and Tina, when she's up to it, will continue to hang out with the threadhead community. And through that conversation we'll keep up with how things are going, just as we do about all the TH's.

[petegumbo]

Tony & Tina we're keeping those good vibrations going, praying for you both, tonight and tomorrow......thanks for all the updates, even from the fairgrounds we'll be thinking of you....

[NYMAMA]

I'm sure we will raise a glass to both of you and wish you well. You wil be in our thoughts and will continue to send good vibes while we celebrate Jazz Fest.

[linza22]

Tony, it was making me sad all over again everytime I saw the original thread title telling us the news about Tina. I do believe in the power of positive thinking and thought I would start a new positive and hopeful thread for you to post updates on Tina's improving condition, mmmkay?

you smart cookie! great idea! xxxooo to tony and tina!

[withbellson]

Friends~

One thing I HAVE re-learned over the past three days is that life is fragile and precious and each and everyone of you should hear that! How much of our lives have we endlessly worried about things that never end up happening anyway? Too many times we give people a cold shoulder or may be rude to them, because of our own problems; when if we had chosen to express our love instead, everyone would be winners! This world we live in is increasingly an ugly place. I have been on other message boards and seen some vehement conflicts, for no good purpose. Can't we all just get a bong!?

I wholeheartedly agree with Funkk that a fund raising thread even with the best of intentions does not "fit" the Nojazzfest board and it is a bummer to see, especially right now. You can also read the previous thread and know that Funkk has already poured out well-wishes for me and Tina, as you all have. btw about 150 of your email messages are taped to her ICU walls with no space left! and I deeply thank you all for your kind support :)

We certainly don't need a fund-raising competition thread on here. Both Rev. Don and I are new to this bored. I never asked anyone to raise funds for Tina, although it seems likely that we will fall short of meeting her anticipated needs.

Reverend Don, I am sure, was only acting on his good-natured generosity and I am grateful to him and his wife Smantha for the comfort they have given me :)

This thread already exists, so y'all handle it like you want, but please be kind to each other. ACT like we were people who met in New Orleans for Jazz Fest, your new best friends for the duration whom you feel tighter with at that time than most of your relatives and friends!!! Feel the love that eminates from this forum...I know Tina and I have felt it burning our souls. And quite frankly, without your support I don't know that either of us would have made it this far. So view these threads for the good things they have done and not for the non-conformity to the proposed subject. We all have minds with which we are free to speak.

As a final response, I believe our wedding thread is totally appropriate! What can be cooler than to be the first Threadhead couple to be married at Jazz Fest???? I am only sorry that it will not be us this year....

[ScoopJohnD]

Got to go along with the Rev on this one, especially since I can remember many TH's who weathered personal problems and aired them on this board, none of which involved New Orleans or Fest and received no backlash whatsoever. And I also fail to see how expressions of hope, prayers and love could "harsh someone's mellow".

Joisey prayers still coming.

[tangledupinblue]

Got to go along with the Rev on this one, especially since I can remember many TH's who weathered personal problems and aired them on this board, none of which involved New Orleans or Fest and received no backlash whatsoever. And I also fail to see how expressions of hope, prayers and love could "harsh someone's mellow".

Joisey prayers still coming.

Agreed! :)

[RevDon]

Sam and I are listening to the Subdudes sing "Help is on The Way"

[withbellson]

I finally got a fairly good 7 hours sleep last night and have felt great today, mainly b/c of Tina's improvement. Last night she was still not conscious but moved her eyes under closed lids, moved her lips and opened and closed her mouth and waved both of her arms as if to reply to her father who had just driven in from Palestine.

Later her brothers arrived. Tina for the first time opened her eyes and saw her brother Mike. Mike is her favorite brother and it was his son Michael who died in an automobile accident 2 months ago and which ironically brought Tina and me together permanently!

Tina had tears falling from her eyes when she saw Mike.

This morning Tina opened her eyes and looked at me, although her eyes did not appear to be completely focused. However, in the afternoon she was able to clearly look at all of her visitors and me 3 times.

When I spoke to her she turned her head towards me. When I kissed her she moved her mouth affectionately.

The most remarkable occurrence of the day was when I put on the Greatest Hits of Hank Sr. The first song was, "I can't help it if I'm still in love with you". When I turned around Tina's left foot was tapping in bed to the rhytym of the song. It was the best moment of my day!!!!!! :)

I'm heading back there now to check on things and to comfort and love her.

Love conquers all~
Tony

[stynger]

That is great news. Positive threadhead vibes still coming your way.

[Michelino]

I can remember many TH's who weathered personal problems and aired them on this board, none of which involved New Orleans or Fest and received no backlash whatsoever.

Me too...a little while ago a troll started a "Do Women Take Off their Shirts at Jazz Fest" thread in this very forum and my reaction was to suggested that maybe this was not the place. In response, many regular posters quickly expressed the opinion that "if you aren't interested in the thread topic, then don't continue to read it." Strange how such consensus views seem to shift completely in the wind.

In fact, I am insulted to think that the thread code encourages off topic threads about boobs and spankings, but a thread about an average person's wedding at Jazz Fest, or about Tina's illness is somehow out of place.

I for one, will welcome news right here about Tina's status and continue to pray that she makes a full recovery. And if you do the wedding in Houston, please post pics.

[jolie]

It sounds as if she's already overcome some odds. Here's to a continued uphill recovery:)

[ScoopJohnD]

It sounds as if she's already overcome some odds. Here's to a continued uphill recovery:)

I agree. Little victories. Hoping they keep adding up to one big one.

[Amy Winette]

Threadheads, I think any negativity is just misunderstanding. Let me take a stab at a few thoughts.

A little background, a couple of years ago we rallied and raised money to send a broke college kid, Rockstar, to fest. Sounds like he actually did go to fest, but he essentially "ditched" us, took the money and ran, and we never heard from him again. It's like when the new girl becomes your best friend in 2 weeks just in time for you to buy her birthday dinner then disappears. That's how we felt, kinda used. And we're a protective bunch, we don't want anyone to come here and end up feeling like that.

PLEASE don't misunderstand, I don't think for a minute you guys are going to cut and run, you really seem to get it and we hope you become lifers like a lot of us :) It's just that it can feel a little sudden, soon, abrupt, to have monetary requests just a couple of weeks after comig on the scene.

Tony, Tina and Rev Don, please don't think I'm attacking or accusing anyone of anything. I hope you can feel the threadhead love in all the posts sending karma and prayers. Everyone here is 100% sincere and threadhead karma can be a really powerful force. I just hope you understand that even if some folks don't feel comfortable sending money this soon, we absolutely care and are pulling for you!!

Just give it a little time. This really is a lasting community, not just people that drop in & out at fest time and disappear. It's different from other boards that I've been on in that these are folks who not only know each other on the board, but meet up and even travel to see each other in other cities. In just the past couple of years we've been here for each other through loss of children, parents, jobs and homes and we are here for you TNT.

[barry10016]

As you might notice, I did not ask anyone to do anything, I merely stated what I did, and posted Tony's address. You might also notice that there was quite a thread devoted to asking people for their money for a charity. All well and good. Anyone who has lived through what we, the people of New Orleans did, understand the true meaning of charity, and continue to appreciate all that comes our way. TnT's was a personal tragedy that happened right in front of all of us. I felt compelled to do what I thought was right, and if I rankled some of you, so be it. I can live with that, and I'll still do what I can to help out the couple that so many of us fell in love with due to their love for each other. If you have a problem with that, drop off the thread and go to the bar and let the good times roll. Otherwise, I see nothing wrong with those of us big-hearted enough to want to do something being allowed to do just that. Tony and Tina have enough negativity to deal with, without yours.
But then, that's just the way I am.


Didn't see any negativity, just an opinion. There's a difference.

[mightyradgumbo]

Well Stated, Amy.

Having been the recipient of many good vibes from my TH friends during Gumbo Jrs surgical trials I can attest to the power of positive vibes of this bored.

I also came here during that time to chill and focus on the environment that makes the bored such a chilly place to chat, mainly about music and NOLA. kept my wandering mind from going crazy

So I guess I can see both sides but if no one had mentioned vibes for Gumbo Jr, even if they knew about his medicalization, I would not thought twice about it and jumped head first into a debate about crawfish monica or soft shell sammies

just my .019999999 cents

[withbellson]

[QUOTE=mightyradgumbo;61742]
I also came here during that time to chill ...to chat, mainly about music and NOLA. kept my wandering mind from going crazy


Me tooo! This oulet has been invaluable to me and Tina.

[mightyradgumbo]

[QUOTE=mightyradgumbo;61742]
I also came here during that time to chill ...to chat, mainly about music and NOLA. kept my wandering mind from going crazy


Me tooo! This oulet has been invaluable to me and Tina.

Right on, Tony positive vibes your way and Tina's

[kerryblues]

It's amazing how healing music can be in situations like this.

[Fred (Texas JF Fanatic)]

Good Morning!

[pokerchick66]

Didn't see any negativity, just an opinion. There's a difference.

I agree. KK has a very big heart and is one of the most caring and loving Threadheads I have met.

Nice post, Amy! :)

[Festngator]

RevDon, please post your phone number here. I know this couple who are interested in getting married during the second weekend of JF.
Thanks, F

Go to his entry on the members list above and there is a link to his wedding page. Info, email and phone #

[chrisjoseph]

I know I'll probably get crap for this, but I think that the Board is probably not a place to actively solicit donations for this kind of thing...so, I'm going to delete the address that the Rev posted earlier. I think it's ok to say "if anyone is interested in donating, please email me offline at ______. I don't mean to offend anyone by this, and I certainly hope for a speedy recovery for T.

[Jaypee]

We're all thinking of you, TnT!

[Corona]

I agree. KK has a very big heart and is one of the most caring and loving Threadheads I have met.

Nice post, Amy! :)
Amen to that Chippie! Have a great fest everyone! See ya in New Orleans!!

Tony- all the best for you and Tina!

[pokerchick66]

Amen to that Chippie! Have a great fest everyone! See ya in New Orleans!!

Tony- all the best for you and Tina!

I'm right behind ya, hunni. Leave the light on for me. ;)

[NYMAMA]

Happy Wednesday Tony &Tina

It's great to hear some positive news about Tinas condition. You guys are still in my toughts and prays.

[sophisticated sissy]

I can remember many TH's who weathered personal problems and aired them on this board, none of which involved New Orleans or Fest and received no backlash whatsoever. And I also fail to see how expressions of hope, prayers and love could "harsh someone's mellow".




The difference is that none of the threads you mention were pleas about financial difficulties, "getting the wagon rolling", suggestions that someone else start a separate topic to list donors, or a post containing personal contact information.

None of those posts you refer to contained either direct or indirect solicitations for airline frequent flyer miles.

I'm glad some of the info was deleted. It was pretty much "in your face", in my opinion.

None of us know if rev don has an association with any church or other charitable organization. What we do know, however, is that he is a businessman who conducts wedding ceremonies for people who want to be married in New Orleans. If he wants to collect donations for a pesron who is experiencing a financial crisis, why doesn't he post something about it on his own web page?


There are many examples here of acts of love and concern by the group known as "The Threadheads". Many donate time, labor, sweat, goods and money to bona fide organizations. If there were a fund established for cardiac research, with a known agency, in Tina's name, I'm sure there would be no objections.

[Michelino]

I know I'll probably get crap for this, but I think that the Board is probably not a place to actively solicit donations for this kind of thing...so, I'm going to delete the address that the Rev posted earlier. I think it's ok to say "if anyone is interested in donating, please email me offline at ______. I don't mean to offend anyone by this, and I certainly hope for a speedy recovery for T.

Even if you do receive criticism...a thoughtful moderator is always appreciated and respected.

[csoul]

Threadheads, I think any negativity is just misunderstanding. Let me take a stab at a few thoughts.

A little background, a couple of years ago we rallied and raised money to send a broke college kid, Rockstar, to fest. Sounds like he actually did go to fest, but he essentially "ditched" us, took the money and ran, and we never heard from him again. It's like when the new girl becomes your best friend in 2 weeks just in time for you to buy her birthday dinner then disappears. That's how we felt, kinda used. And we're a protective bunch, we don't want anyone to come here and end up feeling like that.

PLEASE don't misunderstand, I don't think for a minute you guys are going to cut and run, you really seem to get it and we hope you become lifers like a lot of us :) It's just that it can feel a little sudden, soon, abrupt, to have monetary requests just a couple of weeks after comig on the scene.

Tony, Tina and Rev Don, please don't think I'm attacking or accusing anyone of anything. I hope you can feel the threadhead love in all the posts sending karma and prayers. Everyone here is 100% sincere and threadhead karma can be a really powerful force. I just hope you understand that even if some folks don't feel comfortable sending money this soon, we absolutely care and are pulling for you!!

Just give it a little time. This really is a lasting community, not just people that drop in & out at fest time and disappear. It's different from other boards that I've been on in that these are folks who not only know each other on the board, but meet up and even travel to see each other in other cities. In just the past couple of years we've been here for each other through loss of children, parents, jobs and homes and we are here for you TNT.

All very good points, Amy. I know I've had a question mark in my mind about it. Not because of anything I've read here, but just because, in today's society in general, it's so easy to be taken. Sad that we live in that sort of world. But it also makes me proud to be part of a group that is giving and caring enough so that this is even an issue.
My sincerest hope and prayer is that Tina makes a full recovery and that she and Tony get married and live the life together that they are dreaming of. I don't know them, but their love seems to show through in their posts.
I don't personally have a problem with the requests being posted here. Doesn't mean I'm gonna' send anything, but, then, I can just skip that thread. I would, however, like to know how they're doing......My mellow would not be harshed at all.....but that's just me, and I can certainly understand the folks who have a differing opinion on the subject. (Gee.....I kinda' sound like Switzerland!!!!!)

[Michelino]

If there were a fund established for cardiac research, with a known agency, in Tina's name, I'm sure there would be no objections.

I understand this view point, but it saddens me that so many people, and this often includes myself, believe that charity is somehow legitimized when filtered through an agency and abstracted...but when a real person expresses a real need, then it is now "in your face".

In fact, when administrative costs are factored in, many non-profits (even some of the better "known" ones) are poorer bargains than a direct contribution right into the palm of the next homeless person whom you encounter. Whether it be to Rockstar or to the United Way, charity, it turns out is never a safe bet. But we all need to keep making these wagers just the same!

[csoul]

I understand this view point, but it saddens me that so many people, and this often includes myself, believe that charity is somehow legitimized when filtered through an agency and abstracted...but when a real person expresses a real need, then it is now "in your face".

In fact, when administrative costs are factored in, many non-profits (even some of the better "known" ones) are poorer bargains than a direct contribution right into the palm of the next homeless person whom you encounter. Whether it be to Rockstar or to the United Way, charity, it turns out is never a safe bet. But we all need to keep making these wagers just the same!

I hear ya' Mich... Funny how we can't stand the thought of being "taken" by that guy on the street, who might spend our $5.00 on (horrors) drugs or alcohol.....but we're A-o.k. with giving it to, say, The Red Cross and letting them take us for a ride.....

[dank_bass]

What we know so far is everyone has an opinion, and some people agree with other peoples and others dont.

The one thing that is common is that everyone seems genuinely interested in sending good vibes, and in receiving updates about TnT in this thread, so lets get it back to that!!

More prayers from Baltimore T!!!

[chrisjoseph]

Well stated, Dank.

[dank_bass]

Well stated, Dank.

Thanks, did you get my email Chris (with Ohios Grid PDF)?

[Belle]

My thoughts exactly!!! I do think of Tina and continue to wish them well. Back to the positive energy flow for healing.

[RevDon]

First, let me say that all I wanted to do was help Tina and Tony. I had "talked" to Festingator about setting up a fund, but that's not his bailiwick, so I took the direct approach. I stated what Sam and I had done, and posted Tony's address and left the rest up to the bored.
Having had some experience lately with "Legitimate" charities, I thought the fewer hoops to jump through, the better. I never asked for anything to be sent directly to me, and have been offered airmiles, but won't take them until I would actually use them to go perform the ceremony, which I would do for free.
I also appreciate the moderator's stance, and understand the action taken. I have posted TnT's address on my website, which you can find here: http://nola-weddings.com/links.htm or go to www.RomanceinNewOrleans.com, click on "Helpful Links" and scroll to the bottom of the page. I have no personal interest, other than to help in Tina's recovery. This is my sole intent.
I look forward to meet many of you later today at Rosetree Fest, WATS for the Subdudes, and the rest of you at JF and Ms. Lena's.
Let me also say that this "bored" is unlike any other that I've come across, and that's a good thing! You deservedly have a sense of propriety, as you have established a cyber-community like no other. I also appreciate the Good Work that you all do. While I have been going to JF for over 20 years, I've only recently discovered the Thread Heads (even though I already knew some of you) due to my emergence from computer illiteracy.
So please consider this a request to make amends for any indelicacy, and let's keep the prayers/vibes/karma going for TnT.:o

[Frosty]

Forgive me if I'm wrong about this but isnt the real driver of what makes New Orleans and Fest so special is the community...the people. The music and food and culture were all created by that strong sense of community. To me, what is most amazing is how an outsider is welcomed as family in this place. Well, Tony and Tina came to this board and captured the hearts of its members. First with a wonderful planned celebration, then with a tragedy. In the finest spirit of Fest and New Orleans, this board laughed with them and cried with them. That is what this crazy little thing called life is all about. And what NOLA and Fest celebrate. What is so wrong with a Newbie seeing that?



My continued thoughts and prayers are with you, Tony and Tina.

[Amy Winette]

First, let me say that all I wanted to do was help Tina and Tony. I had "talked" to Festingator about setting up a fund, but that's not his bailiwick, so I took the direct approach. I stated what Sam and I had done, and posted Tony's address and left the rest up to the bored.
Having had some experience lately with "Legitimate" charities, I thought the fewer hoops to jump through, the better. I never asked for anything to be sent directly to me, and have been offered airmiles, but won't take them until I would actually use them to go perform the ceremony, which I would do for free.
I also appreciate the moderator's stance, and understand the action taken. I have posted TnT's address on my website, which you can find here: http://nola-weddings.com/links.htm or go to www.RomanceinNewOrleans.com (http://www.RomanceinNewOrleans.com), click on "Helpful Links" and scroll to the bottom of the page. I have no personal interest, other than to help in Tina's recovery. This is my sole intent.
I look forward to meet many of you later today at Rosetree Fest, WATS for the Subdudes, and the rest of you at JF and Ms. Lena's.
Let me also say that this "bored" is unlike any other that I've come across, and that's a good thing! You deservedly have a sense of propriety, as you have established a cyber-community like no other. I also appreciate the Good Work that you all do. While I have been going to JF for over 20 years, I've only recently discovered the Thread Heads (even though I already knew some of you) due to my emergence from computer illiteracy.
So please consider this a request to make amends for any indelicacy, and let's keep the prayers/vibes/karma going for TnT.:o

Nice, very classy response and approach Don, well done and it's great to me how everyone just gets it. We know you're just trying to help and do the right thing and we really do think that's great! Big group hug for everyone, and continued prayers and karma for TnT. Love ya all, c'mon fest!!! :)

[marignygreg]

I can't send money,but could you give us Tina's Hospital info and her last name so I can send a get well card? I think it is a little early to be collecting money for hospital bills before she is even fully awake, but that is just me.

[Belle]

First, let me say that all I wanted to do was help Tina and Tony. I had "talked" to Festingator about setting up a fund, but that's not his bailiwick, so I took the direct approach. I stated what Sam and I had done, and posted Tony's address and left the rest up to the bored.
Having had some experience lately with "Legitimate" charities, I thought the fewer hoops to jump through, the better. I never asked for anything to be sent directly to me, and have been offered airmiles, but won't take them until I would actually use them to go perform the ceremony, which I would do for free.
I also appreciate the moderator's stance, and understand the action taken. I have posted TnT's address on my website, which you can find here: http://nola-weddings.com/links.htm or go to www.RomanceinNewOrleans.com, click on "Helpful Links" and scroll to the bottom of the page. I have no personal interest, other than to help in Tina's recovery. This is my sole intent.
I look forward to meet many of you later today at Rosetree Fest, WATS for the Subdudes, and the rest of you at JF and Ms. Lena's.
Let me also say that this "bored" is unlike any other that I've come across, and that's a good thing! You deservedly have a sense of propriety, as you have established a cyber-community like no other. I also appreciate the Good Work that you all do. While I have been going to JF for over 20 years, I've only recently discovered the Thread Heads (even though I already knew some of you) due to my emergence from computer illiteracy.
So please consider this a request to make amends for any indelicacy, and let's keep the prayers/vibes/karma going for TnT.:o

You are cool in my book baby! Hugs and well wishes. You look so happy being the officiant!

[marignygreg]

I'm not going to Fest this year, in part because of my own medical bills ( along with ongoing Katrina home repairs ).How about someone bring a BIG get well card that can be placed behind the Diamond Cutters Beer Tent that the Threadhead Nation can sign. We can send to Tina after the Fest. Just a thought.

[linza22]

I'm not going to Fest this year, in part because of my own medical bills ( along with ongoing Katrina home repairs ).How about someone bring a BIG get well card that can be placed behind the Diamond Cutters Beer Tent that the Threadhead Nation can sign. We can send to Tina after the Fest. Just a thought.

that sounds great!!!! i'll bring the sharpies!

[pokerchick66]

I'm not going to Fest this year, in part because of my own medical bills ( along with ongoing Katrina home repairs ).How about someone bring a BIG get well card that can be placed behind the Diamond Cutters Beer Tent that the Threadhead Nation can sign. We can send to Tina after the Fest. Just a thought.

Fab idea, mgreg.

I'm sorry you're not gonna make it to fest. I would have really loved to meet you! :)

[csoul]

I'm not going to Fest this year, in part because of my own medical bills ( along with ongoing Katrina home repairs ).How about someone bring a BIG get well card that can be placed behind the Diamond Cutters Beer Tent that the Threadhead Nation can sign. We can send to Tina after the Fest. Just a thought.

That is a fantastic idea. I would offer to bring the card, but won't be there until 2nd weekend. Any first weekenders willing to take this on?

[Belle]

That is a fantastic idea. I would offer to bring the card, but won't be there until 2nd weekend. Any first weekenders willing to take this on?

Not sure I can find a BIG card in my little town but will look for one. How about a notebook (like a journal?) I can and will do that!!

[NYMAMA]

Not sure I can find a BIG card in my little town but will look for one. How about a notebook (like a journal?) I can and will do that!!
That sounds like a great idea. Then we can each writ a message on a page.

[csoul]

Not sure I can find a BIG card in my little town but will look for one. How about a notebook (like a journal?) I can and will do that!!

I think a notebook would work better, 'cuz then folks could write more and not worry about taking up too much space. (Would that "little town" be Berryville? I think we discussed, but can't remember. )

[Amy Winette]

This is a great idea guys!! I love the notebook idea :)

[Belle]

I think a notebook would work better, 'cuz then folks could write more and not worry about taking up too much space. (Would that "little town" be Berryville? I think we discussed, but can't remember. )
My little town is Stephenson and won't be going to the big city of "Winchester" before airport but I can and will do a Journal. I will take it to Lena's Friday around 3 PM. Deal?

[chrisjoseph]

it would be great to get the address of the hospital...

[glinda]

Sounds like a plan. Somebody make sure it gets there for us 2nd weekenders, too, please!

[csoul]

My little town is Stephenson and won't be going to the big city of "Winchester" before airport but I can and will do a Journal. I will take it to Lena's Friday around 3 PM. Deal?

Good deal. Thanks for getting the journal, Belle. Are you staying for the whole shebang? Or can you pass it off when you leave to someone who can bring it back for 2nd weekend???

[mdfest]

Or a banner. Maybe a TH banner, or some sort of JF banner? NOLA flag?

[pokerchick66]

it would be great to get the address of the hospital...

Excellent idea, CJ.

[Belle]

Sounds like a plan. Somebody make sure it gets there for us 2nd weekenders, too, please!


Since I just have to meet Lis and know she is doing the whole thing..I will put her in charge!!! don't ya just love being nominated when you are off line;)

Lis you get the Journal from Lena's for 2nd weekend OK? Or if anyone is doing last shift and will be back for 2nd W.E., I bet Lis wont be disappointed in advocation of the responsibility!! HeeHee

[csoul]

Since I just have to meet Lis and know she is doing the whole thing..I will put her in charge!!! don't ya just love being nominated when you are off line;)

Lis you get the Journal from Lena's for 2nd weekend OK? Or if anyone is doing last shift and will be back for 2nd W.E., I bet Lis wont be disappointed in advocation of the responsibility!! HeeHee

Maybe we need 2 books;)

[sophisticated sissy]

it would be great to get the address of the hospital...


Absolutely! I'll cover the postage costs.
My husband has to visit Galveston soon for a business trip. He is in medical research and will be doing site visits at hospitals in Texas, so maybe I could ask him to drop it off.

[Belle]

Maybe we need 2 books;) I will get two.

[pokerchick66]

Maybe we need 2 books;)

Why two?

[Belle]

Maybe the suggestion was for 1st W.E. and 2nd or just so much love to be sent. No matter I will bring two and go from there.

[marignygreg]

Some of my Krewe will be at Fest 1st weekend. I will send them by to represent.

[marignygreg]

Fab idea, mgreg.

I'm sorry you're not gonna make it to fest. I would have really loved to meet you! :)

I will be back next year without doubt. Just have an extra good time for us who have to miss this year!

[pokerchick66]

I will be back next year without doubt. Just have an extra good time for us who have to miss this year!

Oh consider it done. ;)

[ScoopJohnD]

The difference is that none of the threads you mention were pleas about financial difficulties, "getting the wagon rolling", suggestions that someone else start a separate topic to list donors, or a post containing personal contact information.

I agree and if the main point of the post I responded to was objecting to that or expressing trepidation about donating after being burned, no problem. In my opinion (and if you re-read the post you might agree) I thought the main objection of what written was the posting of bad news because "I like my jazzfest bored to center on the city and the music. It's just not the kind of info newbies who find us at this last minute want to read. Yes, it's life and it has happened to one of our newer members but it will harsh a lot of mellows." I disagreed with the notion that a thread is inappropiate if it contains bad news.

Just wanted to explain myself. Good job by Chris with the moderating, and good job on the cards and stuff.

And you all are still the best! :)

[RevDon]

I just got off the phone with Tony, and he asked me to post the Up-date for him. They had a meeting with the Dr.'s (8) most of which were young, and not very positive. The elder of the lot, Dr. Burnbaum (sp?) didn't say anything negative, and gave Tony the most hope. She's breathing on her own, but still has a tube in her throat, as they're afraid she might develop pnuemonia if they remove it. Her heart is beating on it's own, with no arrythmea (sp?). They've been weaning her off of most of the drugs. She's semi-concious, opens her eyes, and tries to focus, and responds to stimuli.
When I mentioned that people wanted to send cards, he asked me to have them sent to his address (see previous post, or www.RomanceinNewOrlean.com "Helpful Links" page, bottom) He has wallpapered her room with print-outs of the posts, and plays her music, which the Dr. said "helps more than anything we can do." The room is tiny, and Tony's not even allowed a stool to sit on, so no room for flowers.
Tony sounded good, and asked me to thank everyone for the love/vibes/prayers/karma. Let me add my thanx for the continued love and support this group provides. It's heart-warming, and humbling to be a part of such an incredible story. God bless everyone:D

[csoul]

Why two?

I just had a mental image of that book being drug around during the daze between and thought p'raps a back-up might not be a bad idea. Really I was just teasing.....sorry to make things more confusing.......

[marignygreg]

it would be great to get the address of the hospital...

I would like her to have it in her room as she recovers. I don't get why we can't send them to her at the hospital??

[chrisjoseph]

Agreed. It would be nice to send a card and/or flowers to the hospital.

[RevDon]

I would like her to have it in her room as she recovers. I don't get why we can't send them to her at the hospital??

Tina's in a tiny intensive care unit, and until she improves to the point that they can move her into a bigger room, it just isn't doable. Like I said, Tony can't even sit in there with her. If TH power and prayers produce the miracle we're waithing for, there'll be plenty of opportunity for well-wishing then.
Let's hope it's soon!

[ibjamn]

From the original thread, she is at UTMB in Galveston. To send a card to a patient:
John Doe (Patient)
Hospital Name, Floor, Room Number
The University of Texas Medical Branch
301 University Boulevard
Galveston TX 77555

They also have a pretty cool ecard service here:

UTMB offers an ecard service:
http://www.utmbhealthcare.org/ecards/
eCards
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Delivery of eCards
Delivery of eCards to Patients in UTMB Hospitals
If you send an eCard to a patient in a UTMB hospital, Volunteer Services will receive the eCard and print a hard copy of the card. The printed card will then be hand delivered to the patient within two business days. There is no patient eCard delivery service available during weekends.

[marignygreg]

Tony,would it be o.k. to get the hospital info so as to send cards and flowers??

[marignygreg]

From the original thread, she is at UTMB in Galveston. To send a card to a patient:
John Doe (Patient)
Hospital Name, Floor, Room Number
The University of Texas Medical Branch
301 University Boulevard
Galveston TX 77555

They also have a pretty cool ecard service here:

UTMB offers an ecard service:
http://www.utmbhealthcare.org/ecards/
eCards
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Delivery of eCards
Delivery of eCards to Patients in UTMB Hospitals
If you send an eCard to a patient in a UTMB hospital, Volunteer Services will receive the eCard and print a hard copy of the card. The printed card will then be hand delivered to the patient within two business days. There is no patient eCard delivery service available during weekends.

Thank you Ib, we were posting at the same time. There are so many posts on this I missed where her full name was disclosed. I still can't find it. Can anybody help me out?

[pokerchick66]

He has wallpapered her room with print-outs of the posts,

Maybe he can tape our Get Well card on the wall, too! I might like to send her one of my own. Is the room too small for our journal? I'm sure she'd also like to read the journal when she wakes up.

Thanks for the address, Ib. :)

[ibjamn]

Maybe he can tape our Get Well card on the wall, too! I might like to send her one of my own. Is the room too small for our journal? I'm sure she'd also like to read the journal when she wakes up.

Thanks for the address, Ib. :)

Tina Malloy

[csoul]

I know in some hospitals, ICU rooms aren't really even rooms, but just a small area with curtains around the bed. WHEN Tina recovers, there will probably be a larger room and we can innundate her with T-head cards, flowers and positive vibes. For now, maybe they can just squeeze in our journal once it's finished......

[Lester_leaps_in]

Since our journals won't be finished until after the second weekend, I'm hoping she'll be out of ICU by the time we send them.

That would be nice.

[Amy Winette]

Since I just have to meet Lis and know she is doing the whole thing..I will put her in charge!!! don't ya just love being nominated when you are off line;)

Lis you get the Journal from Lena's for 2nd weekend OK? Or if anyone is doing last shift and will be back for 2nd W.E., I bet Lis wont be disappointed in advocation of the responsibility!! HeeHee

Better check with Lis before you nominate her, I know she's got her hands full with kids and all her newbies!

[sophisticated sissy]

I agree and if the main point of the post I responded to was objecting to that or expressing trepidation about donating after being burned, no problem. In my opinion (and if you re-read the post you might agree) I thought the main objection of what written was the posting of bad news because "I like my jazzfest bored to center on the city and the music. It's just not the kind of info newbies who find us at this last minute want to read. Yes, it's life and it has happened to one of our newer members but it will harsh a lot of mellows." I disagreed with the notion that a thread is inappropiate if it contains bad news.

Just wanted to explain myself. Good job by Chris with the moderating, and good job on the cards and stuff.

And you all are still the best! :)


Thank you for clarifying, scoopy. I see what you mean. So, is it safe to say we can agree to agree?:)

Back atcha on your closing sentiments. :cool:
Pax.

[withbellson]

Forgive me if I'm wrong about this but isnt the real driver of what makes New Orleans and Fest so special is the community...the people. The music and food and culture were all created by that strong sense of community. To me, what is most amazing is how an outsider is welcomed as family in this place. Well, Tony and Tina came to this board and captured the hearts of its members. First with a wonderful planned celebration, then with a tragedy. In the finest spirit of Fest and New Orleans, this board laughed with them and cried with them. That is what this crazy little thing called life is all about. And what NOLA and Fest celebrate. What is so wrong with a Newbie seeing that?
My continued thoughts and prayers are with you, Tony and Tina.

Hey kinds friends!

It IS amazing this bored accepted us so quickly and "ran" with our wedding story :) I know at first there were some reservations about whether we were the "real deal" and there are now understandably questions about asking for monetary donations for Tina's recovery.

Don has nothing but the best of intentions; however, in his eagerness to help, I now also believed he jumped the gun.

Primarily because of my conviction, hope, belief and desire that Tina gets up and walks away from this sooner rather than later.

Me and Tina's family met with her team of doctors this morning and there was no discussion of negatives. The chief doc said Tina has improved everyday and we will keep pressing forward. The next step is to remove her ventilator, hopefully no later than tomorrow. I have asked Don to post an update report for me after talking with him awhile ago.

In the short term we can manage our bills. So Don's concerns go towards the lesser outcomes than total wholeness, which is what we all desire.

The chief doc said today that she have may to go into a nursing home for awhile or she may just pop right up out of bed and go come. He has seen it happen before!!!

In the event that Tina is debilated, I will of course let the TH's know what's going on and TnT know that whatever feels right to each heart on here will motivate your response.

But please keep praying for total recovery and then a recovery fund will be a moot point! :)

Tina's full name is Tina Marie Malloy. Individual or group cards will be greatly appreciated! Hopefully one day TnT can look back at all those posts and cards and expressions of love and marvel that we have found such a circle of friendship from essentially 5,000+ people we have never met!

Believe me, I feel the strength from all the positive vibes you have been sending us!!!!

Tina is at one of only two critical care hospitals in the Houston area, and it is by far the better of the two. UTMB (University of Texas Medical Branch at Galveston) is a teaching hospital and is reputed for excellent care. So Tina is in good hands! I also may try to contact the cardiology department at Methodist Hospital in Houston which is world-renowned for their heart work.

However, please do not send anything to the ICU. There is no room for flowers. They do not even provide visitors with a chair or stool. They really don't want you there and so we stand for hours at a time.

Email me at tfraps@yahoo.com for my mailing address for cards and/or letters.

All your good vibes of support are working!!! and I return a wish of good karma, safety and fun for each and every one of you, especially those going to Jazz Fest!

We will continue listening to FestnGator's Jazz Fest cd's and we will be there in spirit with you :)

Laissez le bon temps rouler!

[sophisticated sissy]

Agreed. It would be nice to send a card and/or flowers to the hospital.

Or at least some flowers or pastries for the nurses who are on her floor.

[withbellson]

Or at least some flowers or pastries for the nurses who are on her floor.

That is an AWESOME idea!!!! The nurses have all been a Godsend to us! Flowers or pastries for the nurses would be superb. Fill in the above message with:

UTMB
Second Floor, SICU, Section B

Also, Don's wife Samantha has explained to me how to perform hands on healing and I plan to start the treatments this afternoon. I will be calling upon all the positive energy you kind Threadheads are sending and the positive vibes eminating from Jazz Fest as well.

btw Smokey Jazz is getting along just fine. Made his home here from the minute he walked in! My other cat CiCi already loves him, licks him and they rub on each other and curl up together. This cat found us the day before her attack and she said that she had dreamt about the cat the night before that. I am sure Smokey Jazz has something to do with what is going on with Tina, but I don't know it's purpose yet? He is the sweetest, cutest and most affectionate kitten I have ever seen!

peace & love~
Tony

[ibjamn]

Better check with Lis before you nominate her, I know she's got her hands full with kids and all her newbies!

Lis (Corona) requests to not be the keeper of the book. She is bringing 2 teenagers and 4 newbies to fest and has her hands full. thanks

[Amy Winette]

That is an AWESOME idea!!!! The nurses have all been a Godsend to us! Flowers or pastries for the nurses would be superb. Fill in the above message with:

UTMB
Second Floor, SICU, Section B

Also, Don's wife Samantha has explained to me how to perform hands on healing and I plan to start the treatments this afternoon. I will be calling upon all the positive energy you kind Threadheads are sending and the positive vibes eminating from Jazz Fest as well.

btw Smokey Jazz is getting along just fine. Made his home here from the minute he walked in! My other cat CiCi already loves him, licks him and they rub on each other and curl up together. This cat found us the day before her attack and she said that she had dreamt about the cat the night before that. I am sure Smokey Jazz has something to do with what is going on with Tina, but I don't know it's purpose yet? He is the sweetest, cutest and most affectionate kitten I have ever seen!

peace & love~
Tony

The progress sounds great and I'm glad to hear a kitty update too :)

[Fred (Texas JF Fanatic)]

Hey Tony, hang in there and stay positive. Talked with Rev Don a couple of hours ago and he said you were doing good. Still praying for you and Tina. Hope all is well within a few short weeks. Take care and will log back on next week for updates on Tina.
Fred

[steffie]

Tony,
Sounds like things are going in a more positive direction. Therapeutic touch is awesome good luck with performing it.
Steff

[kikimo]

Glad to read her situation is progressing well!! I am sure you both will feel waves of tremendous karma coming your way this weekend. Keep the faith brother!!:)

[tangledupinblue]

Better check with Lis before you nominate her, I know she's got her hands full with kids and all her newbies!

I was just about to say that Lis is going nuts with getting everyone ready for JF. Perhaps someone else can do this if it is being done.
I am very busy as well so I am sorry that it can't be me.

I do care what happens to Tina and I pray for her often. I think many of us can relate to having this type of situation in our lives. We all care.

[glinda]

Tony, I'm sure your touch will do wonders, and I bet that kitty is gonna play some role in her recovery too.

All sorts of healing energy being sent to Tina.....

[withbellson]

Just got back from the hospital and Tina is doing as well as could be expected. Her lungs are still not up to breathing well on their own, so we will try tommorrow to remove the ventilator.

Occassionally her heart beat on the monitor goes errant (although the docs say she has not had an arithmic episode) and her breathing stops and the machime takes over. However, I only have to remind her to breath on her own and to calm down and make her heart beat regularly and she complies almost instantly :)

She is off all protective drugs on IV now and sedatives and basically operating on her own except for the ventilator. They are administering a lower dose of the anti-arithmic drug through her feeding tube. Oh, of course, the docs want her to start eating herself again soon as well...

I left her this evening imagining us at one of her favorite spots at Wolfe Lake in Palestine, laying next to the waterfall on a beautiful sunny day, just listening to sound of water cascading on the rocks and the water below. We are holding each other and she is so calm and happy! This makes all of her vital signs near perfect and I asked her to concentrate on that scenario until I come back. The ICU does not allow visitors between 6-8:30 both morning and night. So I am home cooking a pizza and typing on the 'puter ;)

I spent about 15 minutes having a very personal discussion with Tina this afternoon. She held eye contact with me the entire time and appeared to really be taking in what I was saying!!!! I forgot to ask her to blink her eyes if she can understand me. I'll have to do that tonight.

Her eyes started to get focused yesterday but they were dull. Normally Tina has the most radiant color-changing eyes that twinkle and a gorgeous smile, amongst her two finest features.

This afternoon some of that color started returning to those eyes, but probably only about one-half their normal radiance, but she IS getting better!!

Then I tried the therapeutic touch over damaged areas of her body. I had no trouble feeling heat from the affected areas to locate them. I could feel lots of tingling in both of my hands and occassionally warmth in my palms. More notably though, Tina had phyical reactions to what I did. The part of the body that I was working on would shake and somewhat convulse. It scared me a bit b/c I don't know if there is a time limit beyond which could be bad for her, so I repeated it twice spending about 5 minutes on each area.

I plan to try more tonight. Someone else told me I should rub my hands together to warm them up first, which I didn't do. If anyone has any pointers, comments or suggestions for me re: therapeutic touch, I would love to hear them. I am certainly a novice at this, although it did seem to work on the first try ;)

Have a great Jazz Fest everyone and keep those vibes flowing!

[grisgris]

Good luck Tony & Tina. May Tina make a quick recoverey. I will still have the both of you in my thoughs and prayers during fest. Lots of healing karma headed to Tina.

[swag]

I can't wait to meet you both at ACL Fest in Austin in September!

[ScoopJohnD]

Glad to hear about every little improvement. One step a time. :)

Joisey still rooting for you both.

[Orleansnj]

Sending you both best wishes and good energy. It is good to hear about each step in the right direction.

[ohio]

Chin up Tony, she needs you more than anything right now.

[withbellson]

I can't wait to meet you both at ACL Fest in Austin in September!

Are we invited? I have heard ACL fest at Zilker Park is awesome, but never been? We'll make that a date ;)

Did we just miss SXSW?

[ScoopJohnD]

Are we invited? I have heard ACL fest at Zilker Park is awesome, but never been? We'll make that a date ;)

Did we just miss SXSW?

I believe SXSW was last month.

[tangledupinblue]

Give Tina a nice hand squeeze from the threadheads Tony!
Our thoughts and prayers are with you now and all throughout JF when many of us aren't here to post!

[NeenAtlanta]

Thinking of you both, and sending positive vibes your way.

[swag]

SxSW = March.
ACL = September.

[Belle]

Lis (Corona) requests to not be the keeper of the book. She is bringing 2 teenagers and 4 newbies to fest and has her hands full. thanks


Nice that you have such timely contact with Lis. Didn't mean to upset you all..It was in fun...I will take care of it

[RevDon]

Tina needs us now. more than ever. TH's keep the vibe going. Know that she can feel your love, and will responnd to it. We're exhausted from praying, so we're handing it off to the night shift. God bless TnT.

[rosetree]

Tina needs us now. more than ever. TH's keep the vibe going. Know that she can feel your love, and will responnd to it. We're exhausted from praying, so we're handing it off to the night shift. God bless TnT.

Lots of good karma and prayers from NOLA!
Thanks for the updates Tony and Rev...

[linza22]

Tina needs us now. more than ever. TH's keep the vibe going. Know that she can feel your love, and will responnd to it. We're exhausted from praying, so we're handing it off to the night shift. God bless TnT.

love and kisses coming from me and the kitties in north carolina...and let me tell you, nobody...and i mean NOBODY....loves and sends off powerful snuggles like punky and mookie.....

xxoo linza

[ozzie]

Strong hearts TnT.

I remember when we had a Cat 5 cyclone/hurricane coming our way. I hadn't met anyone here at that time but the love and support from you folks was unbelievable and will be in my heart forever. I'm not sure what my point is, except that the kindness of strangers is sometimes the most powerful love of all.

[withbellson]

Strong hearts TnT.

I remember when we had a Cat 5 cyclone/hurricane coming our way. I hadn't met anyone here at that time but the love and support from you folks was unbelievable and will be in my heart forever. I'm not sure what my point is, except that the kindness of strangers is sometimes the most powerful love of all.

Man o man, I cannot believe we have only been on this bored 3 weeks today :0 So much has transpired, such emotional highs and lows. Feels like we've been here for decades, at least!!!

Wishing safe travels to and from JF for all our threadhead friends~

[Corona]

Maybe we need 2 books;)
lol you guys! 2 books.....that was my biggest fear when I said I couldn't do it...with 6 newbies in town (2 first and 4 for 2nd) I could see myself losing it for sure! Ibjamn emailed me at work to see if it was okay and that's what I told her....I don't trust myself...I hope you found someone to pass the book to? I'll read on......thanks Belle...I owe ya girl ;) ;)

[Corona]

Hey kinds friends!

It IS amazing this bored accepted us so quickly and "ran" with our wedding story :) I know at first there were some reservations about whether we were the "real deal" and there are now understandably questions about asking for monetary donations for Tina's recovery.

Don has nothing but the best of intentions; however, in his eagerness to help, I now also believed he jumped the gun.

Primarily because of my conviction, hope, belief and desire that Tina gets up and walks away from this sooner rather than later.

Me and Tina's family met with her team of doctors this morning and there was no discussion of negatives. The chief doc said Tina has improved everyday and we will keep pressing forward. The next step is to remove her ventilator, hopefully no later than tomorrow. I have asked Don to post an update report for me after talking with him awhile ago.

In the short term we can manage our bills. So Don's concerns go towards the lesser outcomes than total wholeness, which is what we all desire.

The chief doc said today that she have may to go into a nursing home for awhile or she may just pop right up out of bed and go come. He has seen it happen before!!!

In the event that Tina is debilated, I will of course let the TH's know what's going on and TnT know that whatever feels right to each heart on here will motivate your response.

But please keep praying for total recovery and then a recovery fund will be a moot point! :)

Tina's full name is Tina Marie Malloy. Individual or group cards will be greatly appreciated! Hopefully one day TnT can look back at all those posts and cards and expressions of love and marvel that we have found such a circle of friendship from essentially 5,000+ people we have never met!

Believe me, I feel the strength from all the positive vibes you have been sending us!!!!

Tina is at one of only two critical care hospitals in the Houston area, and it is by far the better of the two. UTMB (University of Texas Medical Branch at Galveston) is a teaching hospital and is reputed for excellent care. So Tina is in good hands! I also may try to contact the cardiology department at Methodist Hospital in Houston which is world-renowned for their heart work.

However, please do not send anything to the ICU. There is no room for flowers. They do not even provide visitors with a chair or stool. They really don't want you there and so we stand for hours at a time.

Email me at tfraps@yahoo.com for my mailing address for cards and/or letters.

All your good vibes of support are working!!! and I return a wish of good karma, safety and fun for each and every one of you, especially those going to Jazz Fest!

We will continue listening to FestnGator's Jazz Fest cd's and we will be there in spirit with you :)

Laissez le bon temps rouler!
okay Tony, thanks for the update....sounds like she's making monumental gains everyday and it sounds like you are staying real positive and sending her the love she needs. I leave for fest today so wanted to say bye and send my best to you both!

[Corona]

Nice that you have such timely contact with Lis. Didn't mean to upset you all..It was in fun...I will take care of it
hey hunni, they weren't upset at all. They emailed me at work to let me know and I asked them to pass that message on for me because I knew i had no time to get on the board yesterday afternoon and last night. Everything's cool and I hope all y'all understand about the book and my fest chaos this year....did ya end up finding someone to take it over 2nd weekend?

[Belle]

hey hunni, they weren't upset at all. They emailed me at work to let me know and I asked them to pass that message on for me because I knew i had no time to get on the board yesterday afternoon and last night. Everything's cool and I hope all y'all understand about the book and my fest chaos this year....did ya end up finding someone to take it over 2nd weekend?


It will be tough enough keeping up with myself..every thing is good.

[mdfest]

I have a brand new 3x5 NOLA flag. Ill bring it to Ms Lenas tomorrow afternoon for my shift and leave it for everyone to sign.

[Belle]

I have a brand new 3x5 NOLA flag. Ill bring it to Ms Lenas tomorrow afternoon for my shift and leave it for everyone to sign.

Once again your soul shines through!!

That is a very cool idea.

[mdfest]

shhh, youll ruin my reputation

[linza22]

I have a brand new 3x5 NOLA flag. Ill bring it to Ms Lenas tomorrow afternoon for my shift and leave it for everyone to sign.

i can't wait to sign. a big shout out to all of you guys. i really really love all of you. this bored is so full of positive love and energy it really keeps me going some days.

[steffie]

Tony,
Sounds to me you've got the TP down. Keep it up. Her's lots of good vibes for a wonderful day and hopefully Tina will be able to tolerate a little weaning on her ventilator to strengthen her lungs and maybe in the next 48 hours she'll be off of it. Keepin my fingers crossed. Leaving for JF in 2 hours. Will try to log on tonight for an AWESOME update.
Steff

[marignygreg]

From your fellow 'non fester'. It is going to be one hell of a wedding next year.

[TheGuzilla]

as it is the eve of Fest, sending more thoughts, love & prayers your way TnT. keep the faith and therapeutic touch is a winner. My Mom (who introduced me to Jazz Fest) was a practicioner and I've seen its positive effects. sounds like MAJOR PROGRESS has been made already, and that is truly thrilling.

much love from New York City and soon we'll all be sending you all the majorly powerful vibes from Jazz Fest.

chin up, big smile, and I can't wait to meet both of you...:D

[withbellson]

TH's,

Tina's condition was about the same today. A little more alert with good vitals. This morning the docs considered excubating her tube, but they determined there was too much swelling in her throat to re-insert the tube, if necessary. However, by the afternoon and evening the swelling had gone down enough for air to "leak" past the tube, so they will try again tomorrow morning.

To get her off the ventilator and feeding tube will be a monumental step! I had previously thought she was conscious, but they describe her condition as a sleepy, lethargic semi-consciousness, but they continue to try to "wake" her.

I tried TT again today, but I wasn't able to capture the healing energy as well as yesterday, but I will keep trying! Six days into this ordeal and many thanks for the positive vibes that have sustained us thus far.

God bless and great Festing!

[pgh_girl]

Thanks for the update Tony. Gobs of TH good karma and energy coming your way. Take care and may the angels protect you

[glinda]

TnT - still thinking of you both and sending healing loving energy your way. As fest gets underway today, may the positive vibe connect with and enliven Tina toward her next step in healing, and sustain Tony's energy and faith.

[linza22]

TnT, positive love vibes coming your way. you guys hang in there.

[tangledupinblue]

Still praying for you Tony! Stay strong and we will ALL be sending our love from Nola and everywhere!

[ABITAGIRL1]

I am so happy for the progress Tina makes each day. I hope this trend is the start of her return to good health. I continue to send you good wishes and hope for a full recovery.
Kerry

[glinda]

Tony, since I'm not yet at fest, I'm still checking in on the bored now & then. And certainly thinking of you & Tina. Do keep us posted on how she's doing. We are with you.

[withbellson]

Tony, since I'm not yet at fest, I'm still checking in on the bored now & then. And certainly thinking of you & Tina. Do keep us posted on how she's doing. We are with you.

Continued thanks for you positive vibes and prayers. We had a rough day yesterday, but things are looking swell today. The docs removed the breathing tube yesterday and her respiration rate was 45 when ideally it should have been 16. Her chest and stomach was heaving and struggling extemely hard and her lungs had a bad sound. The docs said her heart wouldn't last long at that respiratory rate and her family was called to rush to the hospital.

This morning however the respiration stabilized in the 20's and she is breathing almost normally. Her eyes were able to fixate. Less than an hour after Tina's doctor said she would definitely develop pnuemonia because of the fluid collecting in her lungs and her inability to cough it out, Tina started coughing productively and expelled much thick mucus from her lungs.

So Tenacious Tina is keeping up the fight and things are bright again! They plan to move her to a private room tomorrow and hopefully she will keep bouncing back quickly. :)

much love to all of you!! and thanks Rev. Don and UPS Chuck for your card and note.

God bless and happy festing!

[Festngator]

Rev Don gave us an up date at the meeting. Prayers and good vibes.

[bluedog]

sunshine and more positive healing kharma coming your way from FL ...

[withbellson]

Happy Jazz Fest y'all!

Tina is stable and they plan to move her to a private room today. Basically, we are just letting her heal and hopefully wake up soon!

Love you guys!
Tony

[TheGuzilla]

Happy Jazz Fest indeed! Keep the faith, and lots of love & good wishes from New York City...:D

[marignygreg]

Happy Jazz Fest y'all!

Tina is stable and they plan to move her to a private room today. Basically, we are just letting her heal and hopefully wake up soon!

Love you guys!
Tony

Great news. Thanks Tony.

[tangledupinblue]

Happy Jazz Fest indeed! Keep the faith, and lots of love & good wishes from New York City...:D

Hey Lee, when you getting down to Nola... go to the bar thread cuz I don't want to chat about anything else on this thread.. THIS IS FOR GOOD VIBES TO TINA AND TONY!!!!

[csoul]

Happy Jazz Fest y'all!

Tina is stable and they plan to move her to a private room today. Basically, we are just letting her heal and hopefully wake up soon!

Love you guys!
Tony

TnT -
Like everyone else in the T-head nation, the Souls are praying for you two hourly. We wish you all the best, and while we're in NOLA, we will be thinking of you, and looking forward to the day that you can stand there with all of us and celebrate!!!.... Hang in there, and keep us posted!!

[RevDon]

We chatted about JF when I got home last night, then he brought me up to speed, saying that she's breathing on her own, and they were probably going to move her to a bigger room:D TnT need our continued support an prayers, as Tony is facing additional issues, that I'll leave it to him to post about. The Thread Head Nation is behind you guys all the way, and God bless you both.

[mamaroux]

great news about Tina, thanks for keeping us posted.:)

[withbellson]

Tina has been stable for three days now, breathing normally on her own and excellent vital signs. They are still trying to move her to a private room when one becomes available.

My new delimna is that Tina's family has pushed me out of the decision-making process regarding her treatment, won't listen to any of my opinions or anything I have to say. They do not want to recognize the relationship Tina and I have, partly because we do not have a licensed "paper" marriage.

Tina and I had agreed about a month ago that we already considered ourselves married and by law we meet all of the tests for being informally or common law married.

By Texas law a spouse has priority over adult children and parents, in that order, regarding medical treatment for someone without a medical directive, as in Tina's case.

My motivating desire though is to get Tina off a "Do Not Resuscitate Order" placed by her daughter and also approved by me at the time. That was 4 days ago and Tina has improved dramatically, is not on life-support and improving everyday. I feel that she needs time to rest, heal and recuperate. The neurologists have not even performed cerebral tests yet to determine her brain activity although she is responding to visitors even though she is on morphine. This morning I held Tina's hand and she pulled both our hands next to her heart and curled up fetal with a smile on her face. Hopefully, she was thinking about me?? haha! ;)

News Flash!! I just got off the phone with Tina's charge nurse and Tina's father and her daughter Sarah has rescinded the DNR...Hooray!!

All is now better at the Frapshold :)

Once again, thanks for you guys for your continued support. Now CONTINUE Festing!!!!

[glinda]

Great new about Tina! Off to jazzfest, and will keep the positive healing vibes active.

[RevDon]

Our prayers/karma/vibes/love have been answered! keep it up TnT, Like I said, you've got more positive power on you side than the negative on the other's, and we're SO looking forward to "Our Miracle" when you get her back. Love on ya from The Nation:D

[TheGuzilla]

Great stuff, Tony! keep the faith and we'll be sending the vibes along... More miracles!!

[withbellson]

Tina has been breathing on her own and very stable for 4 days!!! The neurologists are starting to perform brain scans and we wait to see the results...

Fest weekend #2 coming up. Enjoy!!

[csoul]

Tina has been breathing on her own and very stable for 4 days!!! The neurologists are starting to perform brain scans and we wait to see the results...

Fest weekend #2 coming up. Enjoy!!

Awww, Tony, that's great news. We'll all be sending all of our positive vibes ya'lls way for nothing but good news. Thanks for the update, and hang in there, friend.

[Belle]

For all you second weekenders, there is a journal and a flag to be signed...you need to ask for it. It will not pop into your hands. This would be welcomed by Tony.

[withbellson]

Threadhead Friends,

Today was a very good day for Tina. She was finally moved into a private room and out of ICU last night. She is becoming more conscious and moving a lot more, although also in more pain and stressed breathing, but her respiration and oxygen levels are good.

When I walked into the room this morning Tina looked at me and started shaking and coughing badly. The nurse said she was probably trying to talk/communicate with me and doing so the only way she could. I was dubious about this and thought I just might be making her nervous so I left the room for awhile.

When I came back in I held her hand and we made eye contact, She then pulled my hand towards her lips while raising her head about 5-inches off the pillow and pressed her lips and teeth on my hand and smiled!!! I kissed her on the lips once later and it took her about 30 seconds or more after I had kissed her for her to pucker, but she did :)

More amazing, she did try to talk to me after that. She tried hard to say a word that sounded like it began with an "S", but she tired out so I encouraged her to rest. Not long later she made two soft word sounds and she was trying hard to form her mouth and lips to make the sound. No real words, but great progress from where we were 12 days ago or even 4-5 days ago for that matter.

I could have imagined it, but I believe she then mouthed the words, "I love you" to me!

The PT came in today and she is able to move her toes, ankles and knees a little bit. She is moving both arms regularly now, but could not move her fingers on command. Although she did squeeze my hand firmly several times today.

They did the first CT brain scan this afternoon and the imaging seemed to leave her very disoriented and stressed out. Truth be she is still very weak and has heart capacity they say of only 5-10%, but what a heart it IS! Tina has not suffered from any of the catastrophic things the docs predicted so far!

It is truly a miracle that she has progressed this far IMHO. And the positive vibes from the TH's and elsewhere has surely made a difference. God bless you!

Well, I left the hospital to eat and change clothes and to share this news with you. But now I need to get back to the hospital for my Tina.

2nd weekend is almost here! btw Happy Anniversary to Mr. and Mrs. Guzilla :) Tina and I got your card. Thanks and have an awesome celebration, and everyone please stay safe!

[TheGuzilla]

that is TRULY GREAT news, Tony! so pleased to hear! we're still praying and sending thoughts & prayers.

glad you got the card - more to come!

TnT - dynamite is right!

wishes, thoughts & prayers....

[tangledupinblue]

You will be thought of so much on Friday Tony and Tina.

Much love sent your way! :)

[ScoopJohnD]

Joisey still in the house. Much love and karma heading your way.

[withbellson]

You will be thought of so much on Friday Tony and Tina.

Much love sent your way! :)

I hope and pray that we can have the TnT wedding celebration at JF next year! As I mentioned previously, we are already common law married according to the laws of the State of Texas, although I am still fighting that issue with her daughter and family :(

Undoubtedly though, we would still like Reverend Don to unite us "officially" probably as soon as Tina can say "I do"! ;)

We will be thinking of JF and TH's around 11am this Friday...let the good times roll!!!!

[NYMAMA]

HI Guys,

We just got home last night and read of Tinas progress this AM. You both were being thought about the whole time I was down in NOLA (by all Threadheads) Sending love and healing vibes~~~~~~~

[Frosty]

Keep going Tina!

[RevDon]

I hope and pray that we can have the TnT wedding celebration at JF next year! As I mentioned previously, we are already common law married according to the laws of the State of Texas, although I am still fighting that issue with her daughter and family :(

Undoubtedly though, we would still like Reverend Don to unite us "officially" probably as soon as Tina can say "I do"! ;)

We will be thinking of JF and TH's around 11am this Friday...let the good times roll!!!!

It's so wonderful to hear about the progress she's making. Keep up the positive vibes TH'ers, and Tony, give me a call when you want to talk.

[steffie]

Great progress Tony!!!!!!!

[withbellson]

JF Friends,

Tina has been trying to talk for about 3 days. Last night she uttered her first intelligible words, "Oh shit". Followed by 4-5 "f*cks". She normally does not cuss!

She tried to string a few sentneces together this morning, but I couldn't understand her.

All her motor skills are intact. She can move all of her extremeties.

A CT scan was done the day before yesterday and they said she may have had a small stroke. They saw pinpoint areas of some damage, but nothing major.

They performed a brain scan (EEG) yesterday morning, but we have not received the neurology report yet.

It's been two weeks and she has made remarkable progress!

All our love to you~

[ScoopJohnD]

JF Friends,

Tina has been trying to talk for about 3 days. Last night she uttered her first intelligible words, "Oh shit". Followed by 4-5 "f*cks". She normally does not cuss!

She tried to string a few sentneces together this morning, but I couldn't understand her.

All her motor skills are intact. She can move all of her extremeties.

A CT scan was done the day before yesterday and they said she may have had a small stroke. They saw pinpoint areas of some damage, but nothing major.

They performed a brain scan (EEG) yesterday morning, but we have not received the neurology report yet.

It's been two weeks and she has made remarkable progress!

All our love to you~

It does sound like some amazing progress since that horrible day. More good thoughts and prayers from Joisey.

[rosetree]

It does sound like some amazing progress since that horrible day. More good thoughts and prayers from Joisey.

Hey Scoop, it sounds like Tina would be right at home in Joisey!!!! **^%%#@!*

Tony---Keep the good news comin'. Give Tina our Threadhead karma...all good!!

[ScoopJohnD]

Hey Scoop, it sounds like Tina would be right at home in Joisey!!!! **^%%#@!*

Tony---Keep the good news comin'. Give Tina our Threadhead karma...all good!!

I was thinking the same thing RT.

[IBROCKN]

Great news Tony, more love & prayers from the North LA group.:)

[RevDon]

I stopped by the oak tree yesterday morning to say a prayer. What would have been a wedding turned into a baptism. You two are always in our thoughts and prayers, and it sounds like they're slowly being answered! Go Tina!:D

[RevDon]

I just got off the phone with Tony. Tina's doing better every day, but still has a long way to go, as can be expected. She's responsive to his voice and "commands" but still needs our positive vibes. Jazz Fest is over, but Tina's struggle has just begun. Those of you that met me this weekend should know that my heart is in the the right place, and all I care about is Tina's recovery. Soon. PLEASE KEEP UP YOUR PRAYERS AND VIBES/KARMA/ and hope that "our miracle" will occur, and return Tina to Tony.

[withbellson]

TnT hope that everyone had a great Jazz Fest!! :)

Tina continues to get better each day, although the physicians are persistent with dismal prognosis. However, Tina has not given in to their prognostications in the least! She continues to fight the odds and you and I are there with her :)

I had dropped off my 2 and 4 year olds at my ex's parents the night before Tina's heart attack. We usually all four sleep together in one room. I cannot imagine the horror that would have been had my kids been there at that terrible moment.

I haven't seen my kids in 2-1/2 weeks until I picked them up tonight. What a relief! Their mother is not presently involved in their lives (another story), and Tina and I have been raising them full time.

I talked with my daughter Sunnie Rae (4) earlier today and she told me she had bought an angel for me and Tina, with bells on it! That compassion and fortuitous understanding nearly melted my heart...

My 2 year old Anton and Sunnie have both been asking "Where is Tina?" They ran into our home this evening looking for Tina. I have told them and tried to make them understand what is happening, but it is hard for them to grasp.

Sunnie asked me, "When is Tina coming home?" Of course, I said, "I hope soon!"

[withbellson]

Tina is talking up a storm today and partly responsive to questions. The doctors had thrown in the towel on her the past couple days, but they are now standing in her room with their mouths open and saying we are witnessing a MIRACLE!!!!

Tenacious Tina will not give up this fight and all your love and support has been invaluable :)

Tina still has an uphill battle though and your continued prayers/karma/ and positive vibes will carry us over the top I am sure!

My deepest thanks to each and every one of you!!!

[NYMAMA]

ATTA GIRL TINA you just keep proving them wrong! Sending love and healing vibes~~~~~~~~

[RevDon]

Tina is talking up a storm today and partly responsive to questions. The doctors had thrown in the towel on her the past couple days, but they are now standing in her room with their mouths open and saying we are witnessing a MIRACLE!!!!

Tenacious Tina will not give up this fight and all your love and support has been invaluable :)

Tina still has an uphill battle though and your continued prayers/karma/ and positive vibes will carry us over the top I am sure!

My deepest thanks to each and every one of you!!!

Now that's what I wanted to hear!:D Thanks for the news, Tony, and I'm sure I speak for all of us when I say we look forward to her complete recovery! God bless TnT.

[mdfest]

Did anyone end up with the flag second weekend? I lost track of it at the Patry.

[linza22]

Tina is talking up a storm today and partly responsive to questions. The doctors had thrown in the towel on her the past couple days, but they are now standing in her room with their mouths open and saying we are witnessing a MIRACLE!!!!

Tenacious Tina will not give up this fight and all your love and support has been invaluable :)

Tina still has an uphill battle though and your continued prayers/karma/ and positive vibes will carry us over the top I am sure!

My deepest thanks to each and every one of you!!!

doc's like nothing better than to be proved wrong with a miracle! kissy kiss from NC from me and my kitties.

[breambob]

I took a pause under the oaks yesterday and thought of y'all. Prayers and good karma to you.

[pokerchick66]

I wore my More Cowbell t-shirt on Friday in honor of yall. :)

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[rosetree]

I wore my More Cowbell t-shirt on Friday in honor of yall. :)

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Nice buttons Baybee!!!!!!

[pokerchick66]

Nice buttons Baybee!!!!!!

lol, thanks.

[glinda]

Tina you keep comin back, girl! Thought of you and said a prayer on Friday morning at fest as the amazing jazzfest vibes were moving through me.

[Zbonnie]

I am so busy today on my first day back at work, but this was the first and only thread I needed to check. I'm SO glad Tenacious Tina's doing better; I'd be saying f**k too if I wasn't able to organize my thoughts into sentences. Tony, keep hanging in there, we're rooting for both of you and your children because you deserve nothing less than a long, wonderful life together!!

[marignygreg]

More thoughts and prayers from Chi-Town.

[bluesmama]

TnT, you are still in my prayers. Tina is truly an amazing person. Tony, it's so sad for me to think about your little ones. Take care of them & do your best to explain to them about Tina. It is so hard for children that age to understand sickness. It sounds as if they have a great love for Tina, which just reinforces the fact that she is a special person.

[withbellson]

I am so busy today on my first day back at work, but this was the first and only thread I needed to check. I'm SO glad Tenacious Tina's doing better; I'd be saying f**k too if I wasn't able to organize my thoughts into sentences. Tony, keep hanging in there, we're rooting for both of you and your children because you deserve nothing less than a long, wonderful life together!!

I took my kids up to see Tina for the first time this morning. We brought the wind chimes with bells that Sunnie had bought for her. Tina seemed to really enjoy looking at it and the tinkling sound. We brought her a few other things as well.

Tina did seem frustrated and while happy to see the kids I sensed that perhaps she was not too keen on them seeing her in that condition. I have been warned that she may get frustrated and depressed as she continues to recover, because of her current limitations.

Tina's next hurdle is to start swallowing food so she can get the feeding tube out of her nose that has been there for 18 days now. She has already pulled it out once and now has to wear canvass mittens, of which she is none too fond :(

Her daughter Sarah said Tina grabbed her hand yesterday and pulled herself completely up in the bed and then appeared to try to get out of the bed!

I had told Tina several times before this happened that through the power of love we can conquer all and I still believe it with all my heart! :)

[withbellson]

TnT, you are still in my prayers. Tina is truly an amazing person. Tony, it's so sad for me to think about your little ones. Take care of them & do your best to explain to them about Tina. It is so hard for children that age to understand sickness. It sounds as if they have a great love for Tina, which just reinforces the fact that she is a special person.

It is amazing to me how the Threadheads have come to truly know Tina and I through a chat board in only one month!! But you are correct. Tina is an amazing person and I have found out one of the strongest individuals I have ever met :) Tina fell in love with my kids, especially Sunnie from the first moment they met and she has been their substitute mom for the past few months.

As the Nation knows Tina's personality is vibrant, and her primary goal has always been to selflessly help others.

I know she doesn't want to live a reclusive life and have others waiting on her. Thus, I believe her courageous attempts to fully recover NOW! But I am sure she is also frustrated and depressed by her lack of ability to accomplish everything at once. However, I know she will not give up. It's just not in her! :)

Your continued support is very much appreciated by us both!

With love~
Tony

[Zbonnie]

Dang, hadda bump this baby up! We don't want Tony to hafta scroll through 4 damn pages like I did in order to get to this thread. How's things going today, friend?

[Lester_leaps_in]

Dang, hadda bump this baby up! We don't want Tony to hafta scroll through 4 damn pages like I did in order to get to this thread. How's things going today, friend?

Good move, Bonnie! It's time to refresh the prayers, karma, and good vibes that we've been sending.

[mdfest]

We need a mailing addy for Tony so we can send the signed NOLA flag. Please email brian AT mris DOT com

[Frosty]

Thanks for the updates. I'm still sending prayers for Tina's full recovery.

[withbellson]

We need a mailing addy for Tony so we can send the signed NOLA flag. Please email brian AT mris DOT com

You guys are awesome! I think the flag is something Tina could really use right now to cheer her up :) I'll send my address...

[withbellson]

Melancholy from tedium abounds

Restless hearts and lost souls quiver

Paths of uncertainty draw us forward

The future is ours to deliver.

Moonlight dances upon a sullen sky

Thick wind breathes new life among the vines

Time is ours to cherish and remember

Reluctantly trudging forward in wayward lines.

Which bright stars lie ahead to illuminate our way?

And what sort of blanket to cover the past?

Is this the end or the beginning?

Or, have we arrived full circle at last?

Was it for a reason, a season, or time eternal?

Intrepid desires cannot be broken

Innumerable thorns gnash at our brains

But swift angels have already spoken.

Thrice we parted, often broken hearted

But true love pushed us back around

Forever did we promise

To be always bound.

[VWGal]

I thought it was high time I read this thread for the latest updates on Tina's progress and I am AMAZED at her resiliency and the depth of your caring for her Tony.

Hour by hour, day by day, she continues to improve. She's a feisty gal!

Keep the faith Tony, and I'm sending you some Threadhead love and power today.

[steffie]

TnT,
hope all is well. Sounds like some steady progress is going on. Sending more good thoughts and vibes your way :)

[Belle]

Did anyone end up with the flag second weekend? I lost track of it at the Patry.


Or the journal? I hope so. Intentions were good just so hard to co-ordinate with such a loose crowd and tight schedules!

[mdfest]

I located the flag and its en route. I dont know about the book.

[withbellson]

TH Friends~

Tina is still talking and more coherent now. She has not been able to start eating yet though. They were supposed to put a feeding tube directly into her stomach today and remove the tube from her nose which has been there for 20 days! She smiled and nodded when I told her that. No more mittens either :)

Tina was sitting up singing and clapping her hands yesterday and today!!!

Little progressions have been the sustaining miracle in Tina's recovery. Tony has been riding the roller coaster, but is wearing down. Tony is not so tough as Tina.

God willing though it will all be fine. I have not lost hope!

Tony

[pokerchick66]

Hang in there, Tony.

[withbellson]

Hang in there, Tony.

I'm not going anywhere :) although I am taking my kids to the beach in the morning for a much needed break ;)

[pokerchick66]

I'm not going anywhere :) although I am taking my kids to the beach in the morning for a much needed break ;)

Good for you. I'm sure they'll enjoy that a lot. You, too. :)

[NYMAMA]

Good to keep hearing of Tinas progress. You realy do need to take time for yourself and your kids also otherwise you'll burn out and be no goodfor anyone.

Sending love and healing vibes~~~~~~~~~~~

[Zbonnie]

Hang in there, Tony. Draw from our strength and karma!

[RevDon]

I had to take a day off to get over my JF cough. It's so good to hear that Tenacious Tina is continuing to improve, and you are in our prayers and thoughts every day. I'll be in touch. God bless TnT!

[TheGuzilla]

indeed, indeed.... More thoughts & prayers...

[withbellson]

First, I took my kids to the beach this morning for the first time this Spring, even though I only live 3 blocks from the beach :0 It was a pleasant day, but the water is still a bit chilly. My kids had a blast! Sunnie, 4, literally ran about a half-mile down the beach. Anton, 2, mainly ran in circles ;) We are all rather exhausted...

I saw Tina tonight. The stomach feeding tube is in place, but they won't remove the nose feeding tube or the mittens until tomorrow. She seemed drowsy, but they said she was not on sedatives. Still talking, but less coherent than yesterday.

I asked Tina if she wanted me to bring her anything tomorrow and she said she wanted a doll to hold. Tony will be doll shopping for his T-girl tomorrow morning ;)

Logistical planning is the next delimna. The hospital wants their bed back and for Tina to leave the hospital. It will be a challenge taking care of her (her daughter plans to keep her at her apartment) the next few months to see how she recovers and what long-term arrangements may have to be made. I'm still counting on Tina to snap out of it entirely. I can visualize her mending her brain as she thinks, talks and gestures.

Nothing is certain, but it has been 3 weeks tonight since her disabling event and it is truly miraculous that she is still here and has progressed this far, so quickly. To my knowledge, no mobility tests have been performed thus far, like can she stand up or walk?, although I mentioned previously that she has been sitting up in bed, clapping and singing, and can move all her extremities.

Well, I'm exhausuted, so I'm going to bed now :)

Thanks for the love and caring!
Tony of~

[grisgris]

Much love, prayers & karma headed to you & Tina. Please take care of yourself Tony.

[glinda]

Wow, Tony, Tina's story is such a miracle. A testament to the power of love. You stay strong & healthy and try to enjoy each moment with her.

[stlbarb]

First, I took my kids to the beach this morning for the first time this Spring, even though I only live 3 blocks from the beach :0 It was a pleasant day, but the water is still a bit chilly. My kids had a blast! Sunnie, 4, literally ran about a half-mile down the beach. Anton, 2, mainly ran in circles ;) We are all rather exhausted...

I saw Tina tonight. The stomach feeding tube is in place, but they won't remove the nose feeding tube or the mittens until tomorrow. She seemed drowsy, but they said she was not on sedatives. Still talking, but less coherent than yesterday.

I asked Tina if she wanted me to bring her anything tomorrow and she said she wanted a doll to hold. Tony will be doll shopping for his T-girl tomorrow morning ;)

Logistical planning is the next delimna. The hospital wants their bed back and for Tina to leave the hospital. It will be a challenge taking care of her (her daughter plans to keep her at her apartment) the next few months to see how she recovers and what long-term arrangements may have to be made. I'm still counting on Tina to snap out of it entirely. I can visualize her mending her brain as she thinks, talks and gestures.

Nothing is certain, but it has been 3 weeks tonight since her disabling event and it is truly miraculous that she is still here and has progressed this far, so quickly. To my knowledge, no mobility tests have been performed thus far, like can she stand up or walk?, although I mentioned previously that she has been sitting up in bed, clapping and singing, and can move all her extremities.

Well, I'm exhausuted, so I'm going to bed now :)

Thanks for the love and caring!
Tony of~


there are services to help with home care, speak to the social workers at the hospital about what is available in your area. be sure to inquire about respite care - short term help to give care givers a break.
it will continue to be physically and emotionally draining on all involved, and we will try to support you long distance. you all are tough, and will make it through this. but dont be afraid to ask of others also.
Love is a powerful medicine.

[withbellson]

TH Friends!

Tina is being transferred to a nursing home at 2pm this afternoon! She is off the oxygen feed with great blood-oxygen levels on her own. The nose feeding tube and mittens will be removed before she leaves the hospital.

Tina was talking a lot this morning and more coherently than before :) She said she wants to go home. She also likes the dolly I brought her.

Tina will need some good PT now. The nurse said today Tina could not possibly stand up or walk, although they haven't tried. I reminded the nurse that the doctors have been mistaken about their emphatic negative prognosis thus far and the nurse agreed, no one knows for sure.

The secret they don't know is that Tenacious Tina is an original and does not fall in the median range of the "normal curve".

Tina seems to be coming back around sooner than anyone could expect and I look forward to getting her back on her feet again both figuratively and literally.

I cannot stress enough what a powerful force the Threadhead nation has provided in this healing and comforting process. I have never felt anything like it. We love all of you caring souls and once again particularly thank Rev Don and Samantha, Festngator (Byron), the Guzilla, and all of you who have sent wishes, prayers and superb karma our way :)

I will keep you updated as things develop. Miracles do indeed happen!!!

Love and many thanks~
Tony

[Amy Winette]

Wow, miracles do happen! Glad to hear she's progressing so well :)

[Zydekitten]

Thanks for us keeping up to date, Tony and just keep on, keeping on . . . the only way to eat a bear is one bite at a time.

It sounds like things are going well and you & Tina have our warm wishes that they continue to do so! :)

[RevDon]

The thread because TnT need all the love we can send them. Tony, it sounds as though you have won some battles, but you still need to win the war! I don't like using military terms, but as I'm sure you know, you're in a fight. Fight for what you know is right, and bugger the rest. We love you, and call when you need to.

[withbellson]

Fest Folks,

Tina is in a nursing home now about 40 mins away from Galveston. I am very familiar with nursing homes and admittedly concerned. I still feel that moving out of the hospital is a good thing. Tina is surviving completely on her own, except for the stomach feeding tube, but I believe she will be able to start eating soon!

Her last 4 days have been up and down as has the entire 3+ weeks. Today Tina was not as coherent as yesterday, but it seems to alternate from day to day.

We shared close moments the past two days and she is definitely progressing!

Your continued vibes are crucially important to us and they ARE working!!!

Love, love, love...

[rosetree]

Good to hear about Tina's continuing progress!
Take care of her and yourself and take everything in stride. You will have ups and downs, just remember how far she has come!
Continued good vibes being sent from NOLA :D

[TheGuzilla]

She's a tough one and obviously a fighter. Sending more love, thoughts & prayers. Jazz Fest may be over for this year, but our love and good vibes will keep coming! so that we can all meet you two next Jazz Fest!! ;) :D

[Corona]

yup, that's right Guz......karma still being sent your way Tony.

[swag]

Sounds like good news. We're all still pulling for you both.

[Zbonnie]

Ditto, love and prayers and positive energy for T+T every day!!

[t.o..fester]

Sounds like things are progressing quite well. As others have said, we are all thinking of her and continue to send out good vibes to her.

[VWGal]

Hoping all is going well with the transition to the nursing home -- and hopefully they have started physiotherapy already. Thinking of you and sending healing positive vibes from Canada!

[Belle]

This is the time for tough going. We are here still and will always be. Good Vibes coming your way. I hope today was another day of positive signs for a life together.

[NYMAMA]

Good Morning T&T

sending good health, love ,and healing vibes your way~~~~~~~~~~~

[water angel]

My thoughts have been with you constantly. I wrote to you once before about listening to the nurses & your heart about what is best for Tina. My brother was brain injured in a car accident 24+ years ago & I was told he would never be able to do anything (if he lived). When I got home from Fest he couldn't wait to hear all about it & listen to the new music I brought back. He's still here because of his will to live & very strong advocacy. Remember that the best care is given to those with a strong advocate. Don't accept anything less than what you know she should get, but make sure that you give yourself some recoup time. Fest gives me the annual refueling I need to continue his fight. Please feel free to contact me for any insight on your fight for Tina.....take advantage of the experience of other advocates & save yourself some steps in this long road to recovery. Take care......

[withbellson]

Hey Kind Friends~

Tina started physical therapy yesterday and sat up in the bed, feet on the floor and was able to balance herself for 4 mins. without her hands supporting her. I know it may not sound like a lot, but it is!

This afternoon the PT's were going to try to get her in a wheel chair and take her to the PT room. If Tina can ride in a wheel chair, it will be tremendous progress at this point.

Tina is talking more, making some complete and coherent sentences. Usually though, she says 3 or 4 intelligible words and then it becomes garbled. However, she was very vehement and serious today in her utterings. She seems to be working her mind well and I believe she is healing her brain.

Tina's daughter Sarah and I are once again working together closely (since the rest of Tina's family has left town). Some of the hardest decisions are right in front of us, What to do with her short term and long term care.

I believe her recovery has been a miracle thus far and I am hoping for a full return soon!

As a 47 year old female friend of ours recently pointed out to me... Tina (47) was about to get married and there is hardly anything that will keep a woman (of any age) from getting married and I am counting on it :)

I know that I can speak for Tina also when I say we love you guys!!!!

92-degrees in Galveston yesterday for a new record :O